Mother's Love

Mother's Love
Mommy & Liz

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Cookie Baking Magic



Cookie Baking Magic


I forgot to blog about the annual cookie exchange.  As you know, I always called you at least once (mostly twice) during any new cooking or baking adventure I would embark on, even when I had the written instructions right in front of me.  I just never really had the knack for common sense when it came to baking.  Angela and the facebook community now have to put up with me. 
   

I even stressed about baking these special cookies for weeks beforehand.  But, I knew this year especially I wanted to bake one of your traditional, special cookies, and more importantly a cookie that I always had fun helping you with.  Of course my “help” always consisted of sprinkling the jimmies after you put icing on the cooled, finished product :)  Although, as years went by, I helped more and more with the bigger stuff.  But, I can’t say I knew exactly what I was doing… I had you there the whole time telling me what to do (or barking multiple orders at once, as Dad & I would often joke) :)


So, the day came for me to bake these cookies for Angela’s annual cookie exchange.  I had everything I needed laid out, organized, and the recipe copy in your own handwriting in front of me.  I was ready to begin.  


The day was magical to say the least.  I felt like you were there with me the entire time, and I talked to you, too.  Joshua, for the most part, played very nice by himself and didn’t interrupt me 20 times in 20 minutes as he sometimes does.  I followed each step to the T.  When I was unsure about something, I stopped and just took a deep breath, and I felt your presence guiding me to the answer and what to do next.   

These cookies turned out exceptional.  For them to have turned out at least half-right would have been a miracle, for me, as you know.  But, to have them pretty much come out exactly as they are supposed to, was just magical.  I was so excited!  I let them cool while I cleaned up my baking dishes.  Then it was time to do the icing, which I was thinking to myself how you did that with a knife, but it was great –probably ended up being my favorite part!  I had to do the sprinkles quickly in between the icing, but it worked out.  I now see why having me do the sprinkles was a super help even though it seemed simple to me at the time.


I took lots of pictures to document my wonderful baking experience!  
Some of my favorites are below.  I have also included a picture of you and me at the Cookie Exchange Party, 2011.


Two of my favorites:

*The picture of me in the mirror -capturing your spirit on the shadow of my heart.

*The picture of me presenting Tim with an extra plate of cookies because they are one of his favorites :)


~Thank you for being with me that morning, and always.   






Monday, December 24, 2012

Merry Christmas Eve, Mom



Merry Christmas Eve, Mom

Well the presents are all wrapped, the Christmas dinner menu is taken care of, the tree has been trimmed, the Christmas Train Garden is set up, and the stockings are all hung.  I didn’t have nearly as many gifts to wrap this year since you weren’t here to rally my help.  As many hours as I logged in every year to help you, I certainly miss it now for sure.  I miss the talks, the Christmas shows, the coffee, the snacks, and just the time with you.  I offered to help Dad several times and he never took me up on it.  I think he enjoys the busy work even though it’s a lot to do. 

I left a very special gift for Dad under your tree. I also left a gift for Phoebe.  Joshua & I bought her a new pink collar, a cool raccoon toy and some mini beggin treats.  I know she will love them.  I wanted Dad to have something to open on Christmas morning.  I fulfilled my promise to find the gift you wanted me to help you with, which you shared with me this past Summer.  My letter to Dad is below for reference about this special gift. 

As I reflect on Christmases past, I will probably never have as big of a Christmas as you always did.  I like to simplify and you always liked to overdo.  It’s funny Dad overdoes on his own type of things, but simplifies in the ways you overdid.  I take after both of you in such a unique way. 
Although, I can say the gifts under my tree certainly grew from last year.  That’s mostly due to Joshua being way more into Christmas this year then he was last year.  Plus you know I don’t like clutter, and would often laugh when you would holler at Dad for going through your “organized piles”.    
So, I have enjoyed donating some of Joshua’s old toys to make room for new ones.  I am constantly shuffling things in all areas of my life.  It keeps the flow and balance, as well as keeping it new. 

David gave me the most special gift.  I received it a little early for Christmas.  We had your amethyst birthstone ring mended and re-sized.  This was one of the rings, per your wishes, that you wore at the private family viewing.  The ring had to be cut to properly wear for the viewing, so we had it repaired.  It’s beautiful.  I will treasure it always.

You have certainly turned me into a jewelry guru. I enjoy wearing different pieces of yours and thinking of you and the times I may recall you wearing the piece.  It’s just one of the many ways I still feel very connected to you.

I’m not sure what Christmas is like up on Heaven’s Blvd., but I’m sure it’s spectacular.  I miss you evermore and I hold peace in my heart for your eternal joy.  And, one day, mine.

I love you, Mom & Merry Christmas. 



Dad,                                                                Christmas, 2012

During the time that Mom was sick, 
I remember one of my visits with her when we talked about Christmas plans and gifts. 
I believe this conversation took place at the rehab center that was close to your work.  She was telling me about a kind and compassionate Doctor who had seen her there.  She told him he smelled so good and asked what he was wearing.  The kind Doctor shared with her and she made it a point to write it down and tell me at my next visit.  She wanted to get this new fragrance for you as a Christmas present this year.  She asked if I could help her with purchasing the gift.

I still wanted to honor her wish, even though she is not with us anymore, at least on this earth.  She will never be forgotten and she is always with us.  Death is only a temporary departure of this earthly life as we know it, transcending into the eternal life with Jesus and all the Saints.  The best is yet to come.  Hold with you the Joy and Peace of God’s gift to us, in His son, Jesus, Our Savior, and in the assurance that one day you will be reunited with Mom, through Jesus, our Lord.  

Merry Christmas, and Hope for a Peaceful year ahead, filled with Love,

From the memory of Your Sweetheart, Alexis, through your daughter, Sweets.

Our Christmas Angel~




Thursday, December 6, 2012

because you loved me.



Dear Mom,

Today I missed you a whole heck of a lot. 
Joshua and I had a meeting with his Occupational Therapist. It didn’t go so well. He was extremely self-guided with the activities, and it was so difficult to get him to complete some very simple tasks just because he didn’t want to listen. It was very stressful. At least Joshua shared, with the OT, his amazing visual and memory skills with his puzzles. 

In some ways, I feel like I’m getting ambushed with a new wave of services and re-writing goals and such where Joshua is concerned. But, we’ll see how it goes. Overall he’s still making progress and doing well in school. He just has a lot of things to work through (the quirks as we always called them -some sensory and fine motor). I know I have a part in this too and I need to repeatedly expose him to new things, as well as let go sometimes too, to encourage independence. Sometimes though, it is just about getting through the day.      

This feels similar to when Joshua began a new chapter in February with the Infants and Toddlers classroom. This was right when your sickness began, and then went downhill for 8 months. I feel so alone, like I felt back then. I could only share bits and pieces of information with you during that time because of what you were going through. There was so much I left out because I didn’t want to burden you with all I had going on with J. I masked much of my feelings about things I was dealing with as far as Joshua was concerned.  
I did it to protect you.

I remember a very specific time in early May (when you were at the first rehab center, which was a terrible experience I came to learn), but it was after the “Day out with Thomas” event that we took Joshua to. 
I remember telling you about it on the phone and just bursting into tears because of how difficult of a day it ended up being. It was nothing like I thought it was going to be -due to transitions, self-direction, and just the entire sights and sounds as a whole experience for Joshua I guess. Anyways, I felt so bad after our conversation because here you were sick and trying to recover in some bad rehab place and your daughter was crying on the phone and there was little you could do to comfort me when you needed the comfort more.  
I am sorry for that. 
That was the last time I ever truly showed you my stress and concerns with Joshua.  I just rode the roller coaster after that. 

After that time, I only responded to and shared with you specific things when you would ask me directly, unless it was positive of course.  I did have happy things to share. Otherwise, I didn’t make a big deal out of anything. I never wanted to cause you any unnecessary worry. I think you, in turn, did the same with me. Most often I did not even know or understand the extremities of your health and conditions until I would get the details in Dad’s updates. I realize now, you were protecting me too.  And, in some ways I guess I can thank you for that because it gave us the chance to have some very normal visits, like old times, when we would just share a coffee and talk about lighter topics.

I definitely miss being able to talk over things with you in depth and get your insight. I valued your opinion so much because you spent so much one on one time with Joshua on a repetitive, weekly basis. You knew him almost as well as I did.  In some ways, maybe even better. You always brought me back down to earth as far as he was concerned. Some days I feel like I’m just floating out in space trying to find a place to land. 

I miss you Mom.  Today, yesterday, and tomorrow.  But, not forever, as I will see you in our eternal forever.   


You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and I stood tall
I had your love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because I was loved by you

-Celine Dion


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